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Michele Morin's avatar

The word that EE’s life shouts from this era is “unmoored.” It comes through in her own voice in These Strange Ashes, so it didn’t surprise me to find it in her bio—except that it clashes so strongly with her public persona as a speaker/author. Her relationship with Jim, her inability to make a decisive move in any meaningful sense seem to be represented visibly in her crazy travels from pillar to post.

The practical theology of PBI and the prevailing conservative Christian culture of her young adulthood was pretty unlivable. Somehow God was expected to preside over the details of life decisions, and the excruciating task of waiting meant that a good number of “decisions” were made by default.

Which leads to the “dating” relationship with Jim… Unmoored, and so very sad.

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Jeannie Prinsen's avatar

I agree with everything Michele says in her comment. Yes: unmoored is the word. If this is what moment-by-moment trust in God's leading looks like ... wow. And Lucy I noted the dryness of your statement on page 113: "it appears that the 'several events' [closing EE's door to the South Seas and opening the way to Ecuador] were actually a visit from Jim."

Many aspects of Jim and Betty's relationship bothered me, but the part about him telling Betty how much his family detested her was excruciating. It was almost sadistic. Unbelievably, he referred to it as "betraying my folks before an outsider" -- as if he was more concerned that telling Betty this would make his family look bad in her eyes, rather than that she would be hurt. Their whole relationship was quite painful and sad to read about: the obsession with the specifics of "God's will" and the sense that they were exceptional and had a uniquely high calling that necessitated their painful, perplexing courtship.

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